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This is My Obligatory Rejection Post

August 23, 2009  Author: Anthony Pacheco Category: The Craft   2 Comments

I have a high degree of empathy. I also contain a substantial amount of self-confidence. Sometimes, these traits clash.

While I know problems are relative, I also an experienced Gentleman. I have seen bad things. Sometimes, when people adopt a defeatist attitude, it makes me want to smack them. Yes, that’s arrogant, but hey, I’m a bit old-fashioned. I’m the guy, who, when you cry on my shoulder, will pat you and go there-there and then explain how it could be worse.

Much worse.

Reading un-published writer blogs is difficult for me, sometimes. The angst. The fear. The desire of validation from people who don’t matter. It drives a person like me batty.

Now I have a bit of homespun sympathy. It is one thing to have your query rejected. It is quite another to see a requested partial go down in flames. What I felt was different. When it happened to me, I sat there and pondered the process of using an agent to sell your book:

  • First, you have to write an outstanding book
  • Then you have to write a query. A good query. And a synopsis
  • Then you turn in partials
  • Then you turn in a complete manuscript
  • Then your agent submits a proposal to an editor
  • Then some type of committee goes over your book project

At any point after step one; a rejection can pop in your inbox. Wow. Like, wow. So many chances to hear “no.”

In some ways, I am a machine. If my book I am floating doesn’t sell, I will try with another book. Because I love writing novels. I love reading novels. I love writing novels for people who love to read novels.

Something you may not know—I have already achieved success as a writer. Literally, as a hack writer, like the title of my blog says. I wrote technical papers, a training book and a software manual with a circulation any new author would feel very blessed if she could match it.

For the person who has not seen what type of success they can have with writing, a rejection probably, at some point, hurts badly.

And now I understand that.

This was my obligatory rejection post. If you cry on my shoulder, I may still pat you and go there-there, but then I promise to simply listen and sympathize. Because I’ve told that arrogant little spark in me to just deal with it, this time, okay?

Yours,
Anthony

2 comments on: This is My Obligatory Rejection Post

  1. Mari August 25, 2009 at 3:01 am

    “The angst. The fear. The desire of validation from people who don’t matter.”

    Ouch, yes, agreed. It’s not an easy business to break into for the anxious and thin-skinned. Actually, it’s not an easy business to break into (full stop).

  2. Alex Moore September 1, 2009 at 6:55 pm

    you’re a darling, seriously. i’m sorry about your rejection — and thanks for the perspective; i’ve been holding onto Perspective w/ both hands lately. I feel rather smug that i’ve been blase’-ish so far, but reality does tend to crack when one feels clever & snooty at all 😛

    my computer’s been acting wang-y for whatever bizarre reason (yes, all info’s backed up) and i’m (of course) blocked at school, where i spend the majority of my life…

    but my thoughts are with you, dear one.

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