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Kissing Week, Thursday: Stolen Kisses

July 09, 2009  Author: Anthony Pacheco Category: Characterization, Plot, The Craft   1 Comment

Real kisses have power in today’s Western society.

I belong to a rare club:

  • I am married for a number of years (15!)
  • This is my only marriage

In other words, I am a never-divorced, married man. Believe me when I tell you I am the odd duck at parties. On one hand, I am happy to be in this club. On the other hand, I think it’s sad.

No offense if you are divorced. I’m sure you’re sad too, and I say that with empathy and not sarcasm. I’ve seen it all.

I sometimes get together with my male friends in the same NOT DIVORCED CLUB™ and we talk about the other male species. Sometimes we have to as a defensive mechanism. We have to, or we’ll just go crazy.

One time, we were discussing a particularly nasty divorce, and we got to talking about infidelity. Somehow, we got to talking about degrees of infidelity, the inherent dishonesty of it all. We wound up talking about kissing.

Minor diversion: Do women talk about this kind of stuff?

Anyway, we all agreed that kissing was the crossed line. All the other acts of carnal nature were, at their core, not nearly as intimate as a passionate kiss.

Why is that? I could prattle on and on about it, but my point is, kissing has power. Forget about why people cheat. It seemed to us, divorce, due to infidelity, centered on two related things: the dishonesty of sneaking around, and the intimate aspects of stolen kisses.

Of course, we could be way off the mark. But I don’t think so.

Kissing is an intimate currency. Kissing money. Like real money, it has the potential to cause conflict and settle conflict. A passionate kiss on the wrong lips starts a chain reaction, for good or bad.

As a writer, I am a manipulative bastard. I’ll be spending my kissing money knowledge to press buttons. It might not be this novel, but the next. I am giddy at the thought of kissing tension.

Heh. You might think of this as a dark post. It’s not. Where you might see a depressing look at the state of affairs, I see plot and characterization opportunity!

Okay, that is somewhat dark.

As a fellow reader, you might be thinking, “well duh,” and I rather agree. But just as I think writers boof kissing in a good way, I also feel they boof kissing in a bad way. Writers of the illicit all too often describe the dishonest as carnal intercourse. When, at the core, the dishonesty of it all is the stolen kiss.

Comments on “Kissing Week, Thursday: Stolen Kisses

  1. Jaym July 9, 2009 at 7:45 pm

    I wholly agree. I think the aspect of possessive touches are also overlooked. To me, there are certain touches that say ‘mine’ that are far more illicit than sex.

    Sex can be pretty acceptable. I’m allowed to sleep around by my lover. But if I were to allow someone else to be possessive… Bad. Very bad.

    My dragons touch touch touch. Sex is a given. But they like to be touchy in public so that people can see who belongs to them.

    FYI, touching a dragon’s mate? BAD idea. Like, crispy-fried-human bad idea.

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