The Kama Sutra is but one of three ancient Indian texts concerning the aims of life. It is an extraordinary compendium for various practical insights pertaining to intimacy between partners, attention to mood, atmosphere and the senses.
In also tells us quite a bit about kissing “inexperienced young women”:
There are three kinds of kisses to be practiced with inexperienced young women. They are the nominal kiss, the throbbing kiss, and the touching kiss. Here is how they are described:
1. “When a girl only touches the mouth of her lover with her own, but does not, herself, do anything it is called the ‘nominal kiss’”.
2. “When a girl, setting aside her bashfulness a little, wishes to touch the lip that is pressed into her mouth, and with that object moves her lower lip, but not the upper one, it is called the ‘throbbing kiss’”.
3. “When a girl touches her lover’s lip with her tongue, and having shut her eyes, places her hands on those of her lover, it is called the ‘touching kiss’”.
How extraordinary these three little “rules” are! If you agree or disagree about the types of kisses of the inexperienced young woman, the underlying philosophy is an amazing acknowledgment of the idea that a sexual experience, a kiss, can only be so good unless both people are equally involved.
Here, the Kama Sutra is describing the inexperienced to the experienced in practical terms. You might be thinking, “well duh,” Let us think of the context of not just what the compendium said, but when.
Allowing the young, inexperienced person to lead the first encounters shows a depth of empathy for the feminine that resonates all the way to modern western culture between gentlemen and the ladies they wish to kiss.
There are other kissing lessons in the Kama Sutra, such as the whimsical advance and withdraw and play acting. But the celebration of empathy eclipses all of those other insights.
Good kisses have physical characteristics linked with desire and affection.
The best kisses have sensual roots in empathy and understanding.