I’ve met several “writers” who won’t let anyone see their work. This I don’t understand. Whether we plan to publish it or not, does writing do any good sitting in a closet? Should a painter paint and then hide it? It’s definitely a hurdle the first time you share your work, but if you never do, I don’t think you’re a writer.

Either way, I still feel sorry for Kitty…

If not, well, you’re just a reflective person. That’s what writers do!

If you stop writing, then there is an issue here. I suggest breaking the cycle of self-depreciation using distraction followed by quickly getting back to your writing routine.

Least you think I am a going to stop there, I am not. I can be both crass and, as you noted, a brat. I assert one of the benefits of marriage, for the writer, is getting laid when feeling blue about writing. Indeed, it is hard to feel blue about anything when the only thought in one’s mind is *squeak*.

I am not a therapist, but I did sleep in a Holiday Inn. No need to thank me for this valuable advice, that’s just the kind of guy that I am.

(ps: awesome post; loved it)

I bought out #queryfail only to illustrate the dysfunctional image of self is a big drag. I for one am getting tired of it.

People forget that the interwebs (and interwebs is a technical term) also magnifies deficiencies, not just efficiencies. Thus (and Sith like to use the word ‘thus”), what is going on is a bad feedback loop of negativity. I have anxiety over my future query letter because I might make a grammar mistake and look like a dork. I do not have anxiety because somehow a rejection is a rejection of me, as a person. But it goes beyond rejection. People are making choices not based on a evaluation of reality. Instead, they are making stuff up in their head, like the id is wearing a tinfoil hat while the ego is drinking the kool-aid. It drives me nuts.

I could go on how entitlement is wrapped up into this, but, as a Sith, I am obligated to work behind the scenes in subversion. And don’t get me started on how the Rule of Two was the ultimate Policy Fail.

I don’t think it should offend people. I found it kind of funny.

I think my low self esteem comes in the form of looking at people like that, laughing, and saying, “I’m fail, but I’m not that fail.” And worrying about how I’m not deep enough because the plots of all the shows I watch go right over my head and all I understand is the pretty stuff.

But I don’t let that get in the way of writing.

(+ I think the people’s responses to stuff like Queryfail comes partially from the thing I’ve heard repeated so much that people who are the ones annoying the crap out of everyone they meet and being generally stupid are never the ones who think they’re that type. The “If you worry that you’re this person, it’s not you”. The people who complain about Query Fail see nothing wrong with the queries posted there. Either that, or they’re far too sensitive/compassionate/whatever.)

Sorry for going on so long. *goes back to writing that novel*

Peace is a lie, there is only passion.
Through passion, I gain strength.
Through strength, I gain power.
Through power, I gain victory.
Through victory, my chains are broken.
The Force shall free me.

Sorry, but I don’t and will NEVER subscribe to that point of view.

Success isn’t something you wait for… it’s something you go out there and TAKE.

Yes, it is.”

Listen to this man, folks… he knows stuff. Stuff you’d be wise to listen to.

Me thinks.